tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post333963288623908294..comments2023-03-31T06:44:40.484-05:00Comments on Erinadequate Me: The EdictErinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02898732823098422974noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-10888121248568176772009-03-25T23:12:00.000-05:002009-03-25T23:12:00.000-05:00Thank you for the advice Erin. I have already star...Thank you for the advice Erin. I have already started a horrible path of following boys (I remember the days when I would dream I would attend a university in Florida) but I am trying with all my might to change that. I have started counseling, reading all the books, now its all on me. I know at the end of the day the only person who will be there with me is, well, me so I better love it and get used to it, right?<BR/><BR/>You hang in there too, life is definitely not easy but I've heard it was worth it. =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-29453848646850474702009-03-25T14:56:00.000-05:002009-03-25T14:56:00.000-05:00Actually, we don't really fight. There isn't enou...Actually, we don't really fight. There isn't enough passion to muster even an argument. But there is palpable tension in our voices at times. We are both extremely calm, so when we are angry we talk more slowly and quietly. I think Cade gets that.<BR/><BR/>Let me tell you something, if I have one regret in my life, it is that I always followed the guys in my life. I made all of my big life decision based on a guy. I was either running from or to someone. Even though 31 seems way too late to me to begin, I want to start making decisions based solely on my child and myself. But right now, I don't have the strength for that.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there woohoo. I would give anything to go back to 20 and know what you know now.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02898732823098422974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-39174706399592040612009-03-25T14:44:00.000-05:002009-03-25T14:44:00.000-05:00It is so hard to decide not to settle. Its amazing...It is so hard to decide not to settle. Its amazing what you can talk yourself into believing isn't it? The stagnant mind is a dangerous thing.<BR/><BR/>The last 3 months have been the most horrible of my life, I have never endured such hardships. I will not give up my dreams though and I HAVE to continue school. I need to stay away from boys as well, which is easier said than done, as we know. <BR/><BR/>My parents do the exact same thing. I have never seen them in the same bed. After 3 years with my ex I felt "bored" too. I'm sure a little boredom is normal but I just don't think I could have sex with only him, for the rest of my life. <BR/><BR/>I understand how hard it must be to have a son in the mix of things as well. I can tell you though, if you are fighting all the time, he will be a much happier child if you are divorced. I remember having friends call me when their parents were fighting and just wishing they would divorce. <BR/><BR/>Remember, you are NEVER selfish for wanting what is best for you. <BR/><BR/>There is a quote I am getting tattooed on my ribcage in the next few weeks from Joan of Arc that helps me a lot..<BR/><BR/>"I am not afraid, I was born to do this."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-52913955222544624012009-03-25T14:32:00.000-05:002009-03-25T14:32:00.000-05:00That is great woohoo! It is hard to decide not to...That is great woohoo! It is hard to decide not to settle. Sometimes I feel like I am pushing him away when no one else would want me anyway. But I realized that I would be happier alone than in an unfulfilling relationship. <BR/><BR/>What I am realizing is that I have always taken the easy road. Anything in my life that has been hard has been inflicted on me by others. But you can't grow without pain, and I am definitely stagnant right now. Running yesterday hurt like hell, but I just kept telling myself that most of what I do to fix myself isn't going to feel good.<BR/><BR/>As for my parents, I have always thought of it as the norm. My dad's parents had separate rooms, my parents do (they say it is due to his snoring). And anymore, sex IN marriage just seems odd to me. When my married friends mention having sex, I'm like, "Seriously? You guys still do that??"Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02898732823098422974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-44133019401848299612009-03-25T10:51:00.000-05:002009-03-25T10:51:00.000-05:00The question I ask is do you want that for yoursel...The question I ask is do you want that for yourself? Only you can decide. Does it make you sad knowing your parents don't have sex? Everyone is different. I, like many others, feel very connected with this post as I just left a 3 year relationship because I simply didn't want to marry him. The lifestyle I would have in marrying him was not where I wanted to see myself, so I changed it. Of course, he wasn't a horrible boyfriend and I ended up thinking I wanted him back (see whats wrong with you, on SIAM) and he no longer loved me. I had never been so devastated but in reading this post I realized this is the best thing in the world that could of happened. I didn't want him to be my husband, I didn't want to have sex with him the rest of my life, I didn't want to marry a burnt out loser. I thank him for not taking me back. Thank you for posting your struggles, as hard as it is to put yourself out there, you've already made a difference in a 20 year old girls life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-87453960501401446672009-03-24T19:26:00.000-05:002009-03-24T19:26:00.000-05:00Erin--you are not alone. I felt so many connectio...Erin--you are not alone. I felt so many connections with this post. I hope everything works out for you and your family--in a way that's the best for ALL of you : )Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13955854427063032485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-60116888621437376322009-03-24T09:46:00.000-05:002009-03-24T09:46:00.000-05:00Wow. You know, considering my son keeps asking me...Wow. You know, considering my son keeps asking me if we can get our own place and let Daddy have his own place, I think he might benefit as well. <BR/><BR/>Thank you guys SO MUCH for your input!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02898732823098422974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-37346616265113316742009-03-24T03:15:00.000-05:002009-03-24T03:15:00.000-05:00The best thing that has ever happened to me so far...The best thing that has ever happened to me so far in life was my parents splitting up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6888655319164671869.post-5028170989355427642009-03-23T23:26:00.000-05:002009-03-23T23:26:00.000-05:00Your story is so amazingly breath-taking.I'll tell...Your story is so amazingly breath-taking.<BR/><BR/>I'll tell you one thing. The only thing that I feel I have even the slightest bit of right to comment on.<BR/><BR/>My mom divorced my father when I was two. She remarried my "dad" when I was 5. I _could_not_be_happier. He is more of a dad to me then anyone ever will be. As far as my father goes? I love him, but I would not have been the same person with him in my life. I don't like him for my mom. I like the way my mom and dad work together, I like the fact that EVERYONE loves their relationship. It gives me great hope, and makes me realize that I can hope to achieve EXACTLY that. If my mom was still married to my father, their marriage would have been (and would still be) horrible, and I would probably think to myself "that's the closest to a happy relationship that I can hope for."<BR/><BR/>I mean...aren't you questioning YOUR parents' relationship?<BR/><BR/>Otherwise...I absolutely love reading you. It's like a suspense thriller. You just want to know what happens next.<BR/><BR/>Hopefully there's happy ending for you somewhere in there erin.<BR/><BR/>Either way..I'm going to keep on reading you.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17250976614930779565noreply@blogger.com